Day 10: I Know You Know – but How Much Do You Know?

I repeatedly ask my son what consent is. It's the same question, but his answers change. It's great to notice how his perception of consent develops as he grows.

I'll never forget when I taught the Wheel of Consent to a group of 14-year-olds. I guess I should have remembered, having taught in Secondary School, that you know it all at age 14. Initially, of course, they thought they already knew all they needed to know about consent. So my first step was to bring them to a place, without judgment or embarrassing them, where they could realize that, in practice, they didn't already know it all and there were some exciting and very useful things that they could still learn.

My kids claim to understand how to play the guitar. They can make sounds on it. I don't want to overwhelm them or disappoint them, so for now, I'll say encouragingly, (“That's great! When you want, I’ll teach you how to play a song!”) It's the same thing with consent.

"Consent is to ask", my 5-year old son told me. It's a great start, but it covers about 1% of everything you need to know about consent. I have another 13 years before he's out of the nest, so I take it slowly. I have lots of time to model what consent looks like and sounds like for my children, and no doubt there will be times when I’ll be learning right along with them too.

Knowing something is both theory and practice. Your brain gets it, but does your body? Can you apply your knowledge?

This is why The Wheel of Consent is so fabulous. It is the perfect teaching tool to first gain awareness for yourself and then to use when communicating with your kids.

It combines theory, practice, and, importantly, for any age group, it’s fun to learn! After years of learning the Wheel of Consent, teaching it, and living it, I find that it is, and always will be, a daily source of pleasure and learning ❤

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